Speaking of love notes, that really isn't typical of couples after they take the plunge and walk the aisle to wedded bliss. Love notes don't typically happen around our house either. Unless, I am leaving Jay a note to pay a bill or go buy dog food, etc. Most of the time my notes end with a heart, but that doesn't qualify it as a "love" note.
Last night at our Bible study a wife shared a story about her husband leaving a love note on the kitchen table for her. Their youngest daughter was home from college and happened to notice the note on the kitchen table before she did, saying 'Aw mom, dad left you a note'. The lady snickered and said 'oh honey, nothing to get excited about he probably needs me to go to the cleaners'. After reading the note she shared with her daughter that in fact it wasn't about going to the cleaners it was a love note. The daughter than took a picture of it and uploaded it on her instagram website because she was so touched by her father leaving her mother a love note.
All this to say that fathers leave legacies in the simple ways of showing love to their children's mother. As do the mothers. We as parents are making an impact on our children when we show the love we have for one another and they are witness to that love. Jay and I both come from families with strong marriages. Something we both look up to and cherish dearly. The average marriage in the U.S. lasts about 8 years. What happens to these couples who were once so deep in love that they took the vows of forever and now they have fallen short of their promise?
Jay and I are constantly doing things together to keep our marriage strong and healthy. Not cheesy, but strong and healthy. I think that is the general misconception of young couples today. Doing marriage seminars and Bible studies are far from cheesy but rather incredible tools to make your marriage thrive.
We are now in the third week of Gary Chapman's "The 5 Love Languages" Bible study. We have come to the love language of "Quality Time". (You can see previous weeks, here) I think all working, parental, busy couples can agree that finding quality time with your spouse on a daily basis is a hard thing to do. But how important is it for your marriage. I strongly believe that after my first attempt at marriage was not a success, due to the lack of quality time together among other things, that the amount of quality time you spend with your spouse could make or break your marriage. After the discussions we had last night with our group, I think Jay and I both agreed that we need to make more of an effort to spend more quality time together on a daily basis. It is hard but it is a must. This weeks takeaways:
"Marriage is a relationship, not a project to complete or a problem to solve."
"Quality time means giving your spouse quality conversation, without interruption."
"Togetherness has to do with focused attention."
What an amazing 2 years it has been. He really is the peanut butter to my jelly! I honestly can say that I don't really remember what Jacob and I did without him. I guess we just survived? After all we met in such a time of pure chaos that I am assuming it would only be fair to guess that we were just surviving at that point?!
Praying for Jay: I pray that his relationship with God and His Word will bear fruit in his life. Praying that he will be a man of wisdom and understanding, fearing the Lord. (Prov. 3:7, 9:10; Ps. 112:1)
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