Are you freaking kidding me?!
This is coming from someone who I was stuck to like glue the last 2 years I lived in Lubbock. Someone who helped me plan my wedding, stood beside me in my wedding, called herself my female husband while Travis was deployed, spent countless weekends, etc. together, was there shortly after Jacob was born, I took her engagement pictures, pictures at her bridal shower, pictures at her wedding, etc. Someone who knew me inside and out, or at least I thought. Someone that should have known that I do nothing for attention however, I am a very, overly, open person. I have nothing to hide and don't mind sharing my life happy or sad with anyone because it is reality.
This was a 7 plus year friendship gone. Gone over social media. I am not sure what kind of attention she thought I was seeking from posting pictures of my sick child other than asking for prayers. These are the last words that I thought would come out of her mouth. I thought friends would ask if everything is okay and have a genuine concern. Guess I was wrong. What baffles me is that in the last several years there have been far more "attention seeking" posts, if you will, than my sick child. And anyone, and I do mean anyone, that knows me at all knows how I am about my child and for her to say something about it in the matter than she did, lit my fuse.
Social media is nothing but a platform for sharing. People share the most bizarre stuff on social media sites. Isn't anything shared on these sites for the attention of others? Rather than seeking attention people post things to share with others and when you share you get attention, am I correct? What is the difference in me posting a picture of my sick child and asking for prayers, or posting a memory about his deceased father (another issue she had) and the posts from her still single, living the life, boozing and partying friends who post pictures of themselves in bars and such? Is that not asking for attention? Or rather than asking for attention does that get attention? Speechless.
I have been very grateful for social media through Jacob's illnesses. We have been able to make friends who have children that have the same issues, get answers to questions that the doctors wouldn't give us, and advise on what to ask the doctors to test for. We have been able to share pictures and stories of our crazy little life both happy times and sad with friends and family that do not live close or that we have lost touch with except for the occasional post or message via Facebook. It has been much easier to get information out to mass crowds through social media than trying to call/text every individual that may need to be contacted when something happens, someone passes, or updates that need to be shared.
Regardless of how you use social media, isn't it the way of the world these days. Sad but true. Doesn't social media play a huge role in our lives? I mean most business, schools, etc have pages on Facebook to communicate with their audience and once again isn't that for attention?
Needless to say. I lost a friendship over this. I was shocked, down, and hurt. I couldn't believe someone I thought was such a good friend would say such hurtful things.
Shortly after this conversation, I saw this post on another friends page and was reminded that social media is not just an outlet for nasty drama. But it can be used to spread great news, build new friendships, help those in need, and even spread the Word! Hey, there is a novel idea!
.....Let your words heal, and not wound. Powerful.
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